Fjölnir Gíslason (ISL)
I’m a 28-year-old Icelandic actor from Reykjavík. I was raised on a farm in the countryside of Iceland. I speak Icelandic, English and a little bit of Danish and am apparently studying performance art at CISPA in Copenhagen.
I think it’s really important for us human beings to find a way to raise awareness to the problems in our society and speak about things the way they are. If it’s through acting, singing, dancing or something else. To see the bigger picture. We constantly have to find the connection and to learn when to a admit when we are wrong…which in a funny way makes us right.
Here’s an example:
A: I’m right.
B: No I’m right. You’re wrong.
A: You’re right. I’m wrong.
B: You’re right.
“The experience was very much about bottling something up. But the knowledge of it was really upsetting to me for a very long time. Emotionally, I think it’s much harder on the guy than people are aware.”
“Throughout the wait for the procedure I tried to treat my emotions as secondary and just play a support role.”
“In the waiting room I flipped back and forth, reminding myself that this was the right decision, which we had arrived at together, supported by professional opinion, then worrying horribly the longer it took, knowing that it must feel horrible, that I’ll never understand really what was happening to her, and that it wasn’t fair that I sat in a room with reading materials while her body went through that.”
While the men involved in abortions often feel isolated from their partners due to an inability to relate to the physical reality of the pregnancy, many pregnant women report feeling the same way from conception right through to the birth experience. Wanting to help but being unable or ill-equipped or unsure how to do so, both parties stay quiet, stewing in their own ambivalence, stunting both their and their partner’s ability to process what is occurring.